As their curiosity about you builds so will their attraction towards you and as you do share more with your date, they will feel like they have earned your trust.Some say that when playing it cool one should end phone calls and dates early to show the other person that they don’t dictate the terms of the relationship.If you feel your date is getting complacent enough to warrant games it is time to rethink your date and place value on yourself over his or her opinion of you, which says more about his readiness for a relationship than anything personal.When it comes to defining relationships, psychologists talk about the “Law of Least Interest,” which basically states that whoever is least interested in the relationship holds the most power.This is especially true when it comes to talking about past relationships or other people you might be dating, as it can be a real turn-off for your date to picture you with other people.If you have to share details about your ex (perhaps in the case of children) then keep it light, positive and brief.They know that if they don’t answer, more texts, e-mails and tweets or meet-up invitations will come their way and before they know it they are snowed under a myriad of social media.Often people who take longer to answer are putting too much thought into how they look, which means they are being ruled by primitive and superficial drives such as ego.
They must not be allowed to believe that they have a guaranteed place in your diary or your life.
When it comes to information, less really is more, as there is nothing more unattractive than someone with verbal diarrhoea giving away too much information.
Over-sharing can be a sign of nervous anxiety, or the trait of a very open person, but no matter what the reason, it is better to censor what you tell your object of affection because the details you leave out can be more powerful than those you share.
At the end of the day, all this boils down to is both sexes playing games with each other to avoid looking needy and to avoid rejection, which can result in the object your affection thinking that you’re cold and disinterested.
By playing it cool, what you are actually doing is unconsciously shutting yourself off from genuine love and connection because you are not capturing the attention or interest of a potential partner, and thus cutting yourself off from one of your basic emotional needs.