“At one point I felt like I was dating a teenage girl,” she said.
“The guy I was dating would endlessly post half-naked selfies, and then wait around to see how many people liked them.
I told him that, at 31, the realization was probably a bit overdue, but I knew what he meant: As one gets older, it becomes harder and harder to be attracted to someone simply because of the way they look.
Is it because, with age, we care more about a relationship’s potential longevity, rather than just instant sexual gratification?
Or, more simply, have we just realized that dating freakishly beautiful people isn’t all it's cracked up to be?
Case in point: A couple years ago, I dated a writer whose work I really admired—he was kind and intelligent, we got along wonderfully, and the sex was good, too.
However, he was bald and a little shorter than me, and ultimately just not that hot.
A female friend once told me, “It’s always best to date attractive men, but not attractive that everyone’s constantly trying to jump on their dick, because that’s just stressful.” The sentiment actually made a lot of sense to me.
While some people clearly feel proud to have a hottie on their arm, others are more comfortable having the upper hand in the beauty department.