My husband and I had much more of a parent child relationship for many years, it certainly was not a healthy relationship.
I married my husband because I thought he was safe.
The disturbing parts were the amount of time spent on the calls, and the fact that they went to local call lines. When I confronted my husband I did so with love for him as I understand addiction and did not want to make him feel ashamed or judged.
He was shocked that I had found him out, but offered only a little remorse.
And I go from feeling sorry for him, and wanting to help, to not being able to stand being anywhere near him, angry and then to feeling completely numb.
I feel isolated because I don’t have anyone to talk to about all of this.
It took a couple days for him to realize I was very serious about my discoveries, and he has since been extremely remorseful, has gone to see a sex therapist and is going to his first 12 step meeting tomorrow night.
He swears he has not slept with anyone else, but who looks up craigslist ads without acting on them.
As far as I can tell craigslist is not a chat site, it is for random and anonymous hook ups.
So when the following month’s phone bill came and he again pulled the detail, I put on my private investigators hat and began digging.
I pulled cell phone bills for the prior year and found a large amount of phone calls to 1.800 sex/chat lines. I then found web history of looking at ads on craigs list as well as various phone calls and text to random cell numbers.